How do I properly address my wedding invitations?

How do I properly address my wedding invitations?  

Addressing Invitations

Properly addressing wedding invitations – such as the one to Aunt Nancy’s significant other, or to the children of Mom’s best friend – is a challenge faced by every bride.  Here are some tips to get you started.

Invitee(s) Outside Envelope Inside Envelope
Husband & Wife Mr. and Mrs. Thomas A Smith Mr. and Mrs. Smith
Husband, Wife and Children under 18* Mr. and Mrs. Dwight Brown Mr. and Mrs. Brown
Amy and Harvey
Children over 18, Living at Home – Daughters* The Misses Oliver The Misses Oliver

OR

Miss Constance Oliver
Miss Mandy Oliver

Children over 18, Living at Home – Sons* The Messrs. Oliver The Messrs. Oliver

OR

Mr. Bryce Oliver
Mr. Wayne Oliver

Children over 18, Living at Home – Daughters & Sons* Miss Heather White

Mr. Clayton White

Miss White

Mr. White

Unmarried Couple, Living Together Miss Margaret Smith

Mr. Tony Gonzales

Miss Smith

Mr. Gonzales

Unmarried and Invited to Bring a Date Female:
Miss (or Ms.) Ann Smith

Male:
Mr. Thomas Brown

Miss Smith and Guest

Mr. Brown and Guest

Divorced Woman Mrs. (or Ms.) Margaret Wilson Brown Mrs. (or Ms.) Brown
Widow Mrs. Troy Washington Mrs. Washington
Both Guests are Medical Doctors Doctor and Mrs. Tony Williams

OR

The Doctors Williams

OR

Doctor Kristine Williams
And Doctor Tony Williams

Doctor and Mrs. Williams

The Doctors Williams

The Doctors Williams

The Woman is a Medical Doctor Mr. and Mrs. Tony Williams

OR

Doctor Kristine Williams
And Mr. Tony Williams

Mr. and Mrs. Williams

Doctor Williams
and Mr. Williams

One or Both Guests are Attorneys Mr. and Mrs. Tony Williams Mr. and Mrs. Williams
The Man is a Judge The Honorable and Mrs. Troy Wilson Judge and Mrs. Wilson
The Woman is a Judge Mr. and Mrs. Troy Wilson

OR

The Honorable Connie Wilson
And Mr. Troy Wilson

Mr. and Mrs. Wilson

Judge Wilson
and Mr. Wilson

If you are having a small, informal wedding, it’s appropriate to hand write your invitations and address envelopes in a more familiar tone.  For example:

Invitee Outside Envelope Inside Envelope
Husband, Wife and Children Under 18 Living at Home* Mr. and Mrs. Troy Wilson Aunt May and Uncle Troy

Susan and Kevin

Widow Mrs. Steven Brown Grandma Brown

*Children over 18 and living at home may receive their own invitation as a group. Children over 18 years of age and not living at home should each receive their own invitation.

For Single Envelope Invitations 

Invitee  Outside Envelope 
Husband, Wife and Children under 18

If the son is under 12 use Master instead of Mr.

Mr.and Mrs. Thomas Brown

Mr. Dwight Brown

Miss Susan Brown

If invitation is to include a guest Ms. Sandra Smith and Guest
When addressing Partners Mr. James Jones and Mr. Bryan Douglas

Ms. Mary Gray and Ms. Barbara Allen

Other excellent resources for questions about how to address invitations include Crane’s Wedding Blue Book and the front of your invitation sample books.  Please also feel free to contact me with any questions you may have, or to order invitations.

Good luck with your planning;  let me know how I can help!